“You should do what’s best for you”
This sentence came from a conversation with my friend I had about my current relationship problems. I believe that the advice that she gave me was too vague and didn’t lead me in any direction out of my problems. The sentence did not allow me to gain any benefit and just let me sit in confusion. I didn’t settle anything with her advice and instead I sat in the same position that I was in before I even talked to her about my problems. Did she imply that solving the problem would make me happy? Or did she mean that walking away from my problem would make me happy? Her vague statement gave me no sense of direction and further clarification was needed. She later described the path that would lead me to become a happier me making her statement a lot less vague.
I like your quote. I believe this is true. If someone says "you should do what's best for you." that quote is always so confusing. If we came for advice or anything, saying "You should do what's best for you" will not help you solve anything. Like I would feel like, "what's the point of asking for advice if I will get that answer?" It's not going to help solve anything. If we knew what was best for us, we wouldn't go asking for advice for the problems. Good thing your friend described to you saying that whatever will me you a happier person.
ReplyDeleteI like the advice to “do what’s best for you”, and I also do not. Just like you felt, I also agree that the advice doesn’t really help you out in that situation because there are no exact directions to follow. But at the same time, it is a lot of responsibility as a friend to give direct advice because what if the friend accepts the advice and then things don’t work out good? The friend that took the advice might end up bitter and blame the advice-giver. So in the advice giving situation, I think it was best for the friend to tell you to “do what’s best for you”, and also help you to figure out what that is so that you would be able to decide what to do next.
ReplyDeleteI heard that quote way too often these days. I think it is a great advice because we all need to do what we know is best for us. Even though it is a good advice I believe that the advice could be more detailed. An advice should be something more precise and clear, especially when the person is confused. I was given that sentence just a while ago with my problems. I mean I already know that I should do something that is best for me but I do not know what in the world is best for me. It got frustrating because the person was not helping me and I was still lost with what I should do. It would have been better if the person told me what I should do or if the person told me what she thought might be best for me.
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